Q’s life is now in a stalemate.
Early in her 30s, she has a decent income and leads a relatively well-to-do middle class life.
However, she feels her life is going nowhere as there will not be any considerable change.
Moreover, her marriage has become dull.
From time to time, she tries to add a touch of color to her life through traveling.
This is what she has been interested in since her student days.
Once before, her destinations were mainly within the country because of financial constraints.
But now she can afford a larger range of choices.
Britain, France and Italy, to name a few, are her favorite places to visit.
But, although now she travels more, she draws less happiness from traveling than before.
She finds that people in different parts of the world are not that different.
Everyone’s life is full of similar trivialities.
Although she feels free and fresh every time she is out, the feeling does not last long.
Traveling is indeed a great activity, but it is far less wonderful than described in the drama shows and documentaries.
这让 Q 想起了自己刚开始工作的那段时间。
This reminds Q of the early days of her career.
At the time, she changed her job very frequently.
Every time she started a new job, she would soon find something unsuitable for her.
She was not sure what she was fit for, and what she really wanted.
So she had been switching jobs, trying different roles.
Because of that, her career developed very slowly, and she even had a financial crisis at a time.
Obviously, so many new opportunities and new jobs did not do her much good.
Talking about traveling or new jobs, many people often think of “change of environment, change of mood”.
But is it really helpful?
I remember reading a sentence before:
Life sucks no matter where you are. So don't be fooled by location changes.
This seems a very passive statement, but it does make sense.
Changing jobs is like traveling. The meaning often does not lie in seeing new landscapes, but rather in examining yourself with new eyes.
In the end, what you probably find is that these places are not all that different.
Always looking forward to changing the environment, in fact, is running away from the problem instead of solving it.
If you really want to make a better life for yourself, calm down and face the trivialities in it.